Can you manifest him?: Goddess Alchemy, Awaken and call in your dream love life!

Manifesting your dream love life isn’t about waiting for fate to intervene—it’s about aligning your energy, beliefs, and actions with the love you desire. Whether you’re seeking a new relationship, deepening an existing one, or exploring unconventional love dynamics.

If you're telling yourself things like "he's just not ready" or asking "when will this finally move forward?" then you may be out of alignment with your desires.

Of course, all people including men have their personal challenges in life and things they need to figure out but when it comes to romantic attraction, make no mistake: people tend to make themselves ready very fast when they encounter that which they are truly seeking on a soul level.

At Goddess Vibes, we believe that every woman possesses an innate power to shape her reality, especially when it comes to love. You are a natural born alchemist. Manifesting your dream love life isn’t about waiting for destiny to take its course; it’s about actively creating the romantic journey you desire. Let's talk about how you can harness your inner goddess and attract the love you deserve.

I have been interested in manifestation from a very young age, as someone who was always inspired by exploring the mysteries of life it was fascinating to me to think of myself as a creator who had the ability to design the life I truly wanted, but for a long time I felt it was just a fantasy, nothing had ever come to me easily and I had experienced a lot of challenges, and yet I saw others doing it effortlessly, I just couldn't seem to get into that alignment personally.

When I was twenty my first love returned to my life, we had dated as teens and he had broken my heart, I had been on cloud nine when he looked my way, one of the best looking, most sought after boys in town and yet it was me he wanted to date, I couldn't believe it, Tom was tall dark and devastatingly handsome, now here we were in our early twenties, and he was a military man back in my life telling me how much he had missed me. It seemed too good to be true, my mind transported me back to the age of fifteen, my friends crowding around me at school to tell me how Tom had been seen kissing another girl, it had been my first real heart break, I never spoke to him again, yet now here he was sitting beside me, gazing into my eyes.

"He's ghosting me" I told my friend a month later, she scoffed at me "He was talking about marrying you a week ago! you're so paranoid!" she laughed, but I knew it. As women we are so attuned to energy. "Just because he didn't text you one morning doesn't mean he's ghosting you! You know what his job is like" .

I was right though wasn't I? we always are.

So it was, I was launched into heart break once again, feeling stupid too, because how could I have trusted him again? I asked for this, I deserved it. I decided through my sadness that I would try to manifest him back into my life...why? because I felt so helpless, I just wanted to feel worthy and happy again. So, I made a vision board, I set my intentions, and six months later I saw him...on my Facebook feed...marrying another woman.

Manifestation is bullshit. It doesn't work.

Although I didn't realise it at the time, I had been given my first significant lesson in manifestation.

The universe doesn't respond to your wishes like some genie, it responds to your frequency, it is impossible to attract what you desire from an emotional space of lack, pining, waiting, suffering and especially...feeling unworthy of what you want.

Fast forward twenty plus years, the universe is my sugar daddy and I always get what I want (nine times out of ten anyway) It gives to me with both hands and I exist in gratitude, confidence and abundance.

So what changed?

What changed is that I kept learning, kept observing and kept perfecting the art of manifestation.

Science and spirituality both suggest that thoughts are not just intangible ideas but energetic forces with measurable frequencies. Here’s how:

1. Thoughts Generate Electrical and Magnetic Fields

The brain operates using electrical impulses, and neurons communicate through tiny bursts of energy. When you think, these electrical signals create electromagnetic fields that extend beyond your body. Studies in neuroscience and quantum physics suggest that these fields can influence the energy around you, including your own physical and emotional state.

2. Quantum Physics & Observer Effect

The famous Double-Slit Experiment in quantum physics showed that the act of observation changes the behaviour of particles. This suggests that consciousness (thought) influences matter. If thoughts can alter quantum particles, it’s possible they shape reality in more ways than we understand.

3. Heart-Brain Coherence & Energy Fields

The HeartMath Institute has conducted studies showing that the heart emits a powerful electromagnetic field, even stronger than the brain’s. When we generate positive emotions and thoughts, this field becomes more coherent and can influence not only our own well-being but also those around us.

4. Thoughts Hold a Measurable Frequency

Different emotions and thoughts emit distinct vibrational frequencies. Researcher Dr. David Hawkins, in his book Power vs. Force, mapped out the frequencies of emotions:

• Low-frequency emotions: Fear, shame, guilt (vibrate lower, drain energy).

• High-frequency emotions: Love, gratitude, joy (uplift and expand energy).

This aligns with the Law of Vibration, which states that everything in the universe is in constant motion and vibrating at different frequencies—including thoughts.

(If you find yourself existing in lower vibrational states don't berate yourself! this is a signal to give yourself love, kindness and understanding. It is also a good chance to ask what am I learning from my past experiences?)

5. Thoughts Influence Physical Reality (Mind-Body Connection)

The placebo effect is a well-documented example of thoughts affecting physical outcomes. Patients who believe they are receiving treatment often experience real physiological changes—even when given a sugar pill. This suggests that belief and thought energy have the power to shape our reality on a biological level.

6. Manifestation & Thought Frequency

If thoughts are energy, they interact with the world around us, attracting experiences of a similar vibration. This is the foundation of manifestation—by focusing on high-frequency thoughts (love, gratitude, success), you align with those energies and attract them into your life.

Thoughts are more than just fleeting ideas; they are energetic forces that shape reality. By consciously choosing high-vibrational thoughts and combining this with an aligning emotional state, you can shift your energy field, influence your surroundings, and manifest the experiences you desire.

Now, I would need to write an entire book on this subject to share the full mindset, and all the tips and tricks I have learnt but if we break it down into a few key points, it goes as follows:

Clarify Your Desires

"I keep meeting men rapidly, but none of them are quite what I want, it's frustrating, I don't need fifteen okay guys, I need the one right one!" This happens because you haven't clarified what you actually want out of love, or perhaps you're confused about it, in this situation all the universe can do is offer you options to see what you respond to, kind of like a cheese board, instead of responding to your decision, the universe is responding to your indecision.

Begin by understanding what you truly want in a relationship. Reflect on the qualities you seek in a partner, what are your values, the dynamics you wish to experience, and the feelings you want to cultivate? This clarity sets a powerful intention, guiding the universe to align with your desires.

Cultivate Self-Love

I know it sounds cheesy, but self love is the key to everything, when I was finally able to observe my relationship with Tom from a place of objectivity, I realised that I have never felt worthy of his interest, not even at fifteen, I couldn't understand why it was me he wanted despite being a model at the time, because inside my value did not align with how men perceived me physically.

Your relationship with yourself sets the foundation for all other relationships. Embrace self-compassion, acknowledge your worth, and prioritize your well-being. When you love and respect yourself, you naturally attract partners who do the same.

Release Past Attachments

Being an empty vessel energetically is the secret to manifesting just about anything in life. This might sound hollow, but it really isn't. When we carry sadness, disappointment and set backs close to our heart it creates energy blocks, A powerful approach for me was committing to regular chakra clearing meditations, chakras are energy centres where we store all of our pain, trauma and the things that have contributed to a lack of self worth. Once I made this a priority I was able to walk around with an open heart and light energy, knowing that I had the resources and resilience to handle anything that was thrown at me, and meaning I could connect with others on a much more authentic level, without fear.

Holding onto past hurts or unfulfilled relationships can hinder your manifestation journey. Acknowledge these experiences, extract the lessons they offered, and let them go. This creates space for new, fulfilling connections to enter your life.

This also means that if someone has hurt you previously, you need to be able to process and work through that emotional clutter, to create a reset with them where we are standing in a new energetic frequency. Otherwise we may keep repeating the same lessons with them.

Ask yourself: how might I be creating barriers for my manifestations via fear, resentment, lack or distrust and how can I begin to neutralise them?

Embody the Love You Seek

Align your actions, thoughts, and emotions with the love you wish to attract. Engage in activities that bring you joy, surround yourself with positive influences, and maintain an open heart. By embodying love and positivity, you become a magnet for similar energies.

If you wish to meet someone and start a family, start aligning with that now, or more specifically align with the feelings associated with family, resist isolating yourself from your friends because of a man you met, create fun group experiences, a picnic at the park, a camping trip or go and chill at the playground with a good book. Spend more time with friends who are parents and make great memories, take photo's, laugh and play.

Nurture and reparent your own inner child, work on inner child exercises and integration. If you'd like to know more about this or anything in this article you can book a session with me here

Detachment is everything

As a women's coach of eighteen years I have experienced a phenomenon so many times that it's impossible to be coincidence, that the women who energetically "cling" to a particular man, a certain outcome or narrative almost never get the outcome they desire.

But the ones who can release the need to cling, tend to get everything, and more than they desired. If the idea of not ending up with a particular man sends you into an emotional tail spin, or you feel that you need to take the lead or he would disappear into the wind, then you have work to do my lovely.

Patience and faith are essential components of manifestation. Trust that the universe is working in your favour, even if results aren’t immediate. Maintain a positive mindset, stay open to unexpected opportunities, and believe that your dream love life is unfolding perfectly. Even negative experiences can be a course correction towards our greatest opportunities unfolding. When we fail to trust that we can truly have and enjoy what we desire, we will always slide back into lower vibrational frequencies.

The reason I couldn't attract Tom back was because although I was focused on him, my emotions were still in a place of heaviness, fear and a lack of trust in my own desirability and what I had to offer, I was placing him on a pedestal that meant I would always be beneath him, therefore he would always remain just outside of my reach.

By embracing these principles, you empower yourself to manifest a love life that resonates with your deepest desires. Remember, as a goddess, you hold the power to create the romantic destiny you envision.

Why is it that when you finally get over a man, he texts you?

Why is it that when you're single, the dating pool is dry but when you're in a happy relationship you notice high quality men giving you the eye everywhere you go?

Because =detachment.

Many women think detachment means ignoring his texts or playing hard to get, it does not! Detachment is when you have stopped letting him rent all the space in your head for free, because you are so excited about your own adventure, your own growth, your own joy, so that when he does text you it's a pleasant surprise and you'd barely thought of him in days.

Three years ago I walked into a room as a married woman with my adorable little boy, and who did I run into? Tom, twenty years hadn't treated him well, he had aged poorly and was grey and losing his hairline, aging happens to everyone but it was a shock to me to see him looking so different, Here I was still getting carded to buy wine on a weekend, having that babyface I hated as a kid really paid off. A few hours later I got a Facebook message from Tom, I smiled as I hit that block button.

The universe is smarter than you are

When we are unable to trust, when we need to control or micromanage our lives, or when we become rigid and inflexible on how the future could look for us, we get in trouble.

The need to control things, comes from fear. I had to be humbled in the realisation that the universe is much, much smarter than I am. What seemed so huge to a teenage girl with limited dating experience, is now laughable to an established, confident woman, I mean really?...that cheating douche bag was what I wanted?...was the best I could get? Many years ago I viewed an apartment, I was leaving a toxic man and I needed a new home, I was rushing the process, but I went to view a quaint little place, when I arrived for the viewing the agent couldn't get the key to work, a thought suddenly flashed through my mind... "If the door won't open, it's not your door" With a thrust, the agent flung the door open and we went to look around, the place was run down and dated, but all I could see was the potential, the high Edwardian ceilings, the spacious rooms, the proximity to the beach, and then the bedroom a huge double room with French doors onto an overgrown walled garden, the garden looked like the kind of place where fairies would frolic under the moon light, I could visualise myself healing in this home, making it my own. "I'll take it" I told the agent as we stepped back out of the front door, just then a man came running over red faced and panting, "Don't rent that apartment!" he exclaimed, I was surprised but he told me to look at the roof, all the tiles were eroding and falling away "the owners never do repairs" he explained, "that's why the previous tenants moved out, they said it was a money pit, potentially a death trap". Of course, I didn't rent the house, I could hear the universe loud and clear, it was telling me no.

The place I did move to, set in motion an entire chain of events that enhanced my life in miraculous ways.

Sometimes when the door just won't open, it's because that is not your door.

But that is no reason to be sad, there are always many alternative options being served for you in this buffet of life.

What are you choosing?

When we fall into the trap of needing a particular outcome, a particular man to be happy we are operating from a place of proving, rather than trusting. Proving that we are good enough, proving that we can force something into being.

Quite simply, this just isn't how it works when it comes to love.

This sort of self-competition removes us from discernment and out of the framework of being a chooser, for ourselves and our own life, when we need to succeed in securing someone at all costs we may fail to notice poor qualities in the other, a lack of loyalty, consistency, effort or empathy. Your true partner is someone that will show up for you again and again, on every level and in ways that you never imagined were possible, someone who will go to the ends of the earth to ensure you are safe and happy. Are you able to do that for yourself first? Can you be in that frequency now?

In relationships the partner we choose is going to be the one beside us when we receive bad health news, or lose a parent or a job, they may end up being the person we co-parent with, is just wanting him enough? Does he truly have the qualities you will need for the long term? Be courageous and understand that there are endless options out there, you never need to limit yourself by trying to make the wrong person fit.

Does he have those necessary qualities or are you projecting them onto him because you're attached?

Raising the ceiling on what you believe is possible

This was a game changing realisation for me, I discovered that every time I reached a new level in my ability to manifest, new blocks and limits would be revealed from within me.

This wasn't a case of simply mastering the art of manifestation, it was about breaking through layer after layer of conditioning, emotional blocks and discovering that I had to gradually keep raising the bar on what was possible for me.

For example, I had learnt how to attract more money than I ever had before, but now I would

become stuck at that level, I would attract more and then it would all disappear on an unexpected bill, so I had to work on re-calling money back after it suddenly went out, I had to become comfortable with a higher tax bracket before it could show up in my life.

For some women manifesting money and career advancement is as easy as breathing, yet they feel stuck at the start line in terms of love, for others attracting men is effortless, but keeping them interested and getting to commitment is a huge challenge.

A majorly overlooked aspect of manifestation is getting comfortable with new areas of growth and possibility, being able to self- evaluate to see where you're getting stuck, then challenging the mental blocks that are still limiting you.

Also realising that you can understand something rationally but going to deeper levels of understanding and feeling into that truth can take time. This is why I can explain something a dozen different ways but it won’t fully click for some women until they are ready.

Do I believe we manifest every single experience?

Personally no, I don't. Just like most things in life, it's not as black and white as that, I believe whole heartedly in manifestation and I have seen it working in my life beyond a shadow of doubt but I don't believe we necessarily manifest every single thing that happens to us, think of it like tarot. in a traditional 78 card deck you have the minor arcana (or lesser arcana) made up of 56 cards, and the major or higher arcana made up of just 22 cards, within four suits. the minor cards represents that which we can control, learn from and direct from our own intention, the major arcana represent the fate cards, the events that are perhaps part of a greater plan or soul contract, pre destined events that are designed to shape our journey in profound ways. What I do believe is that we can hold creation over the majority of our life, but perhaps not every last bit of it.

Or think of it as becoming lucid within a dream, once you are lucid you can change and adjust things, if you wanted you could change the entire dream to something different. Life can be exactly the same way, once we "awaken within the dream" we have the power to alter it. Maybe we don't hold the power to change every bad thing in the world (although perhaps collective focus and intention could) when it comes to our own life, our own little patch of this spinning ball, we have the power to shape our experience.

Women book sessions with me to learn how to text men, how to understand psychology and how to get results in dating, and that is so important, (and so much fun to teach) but the final step in terms of mastery in dating, is your energetic frequency, your state of being, from there, almost anything is possible.

So, ask yourself what will you create? How can you challenge yourself to raise beyond seemingly mundane possibilities and into a reality than transcends the ordinary?

The love you seek is seeking you, too. Your job is to align, trust, and stay open to receiving.

Love is already on its way. Are you ready to receive it?

Jade Isabelle is a dating and empowerment coach with eighteen years experience in the field, she resides in the UK, with her husband and three sons, if you would like to book a session, where she can analyse your situation and arm you with advice, plus a plan that works for you, you can apply for a session here.